Writing is a lonely endeavor.
That being said, it is cheap to think that for that reason alone you shouldn’t write one.
It’s true. You will be spending many lonely hours that lead to days that lead to months that ultimately lead to years alone with your Smith-Corona hammering away at the keys, grinding away, filling up your blank pages until you have your coveted finished product.
So what do you get from writing?
I know of the struggles of grinding and pushing myself to write everyday (which is one of the hardest parts).
In writing and writing a book, one goes through many struggles that stem from loneliness.
So why would we endure the loneliness that comes from writing? Why would we sacrifice so much time and effort even if there is no guarantee that our work will be recognized?
You sacrifice the immediate pleasures of life for the long term accomplishment.
“Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.” -Steven Pressfield
If you’re a writer, and since you’ve gone this far into reading this- I’m sure you are, you are looking to discover who you are. You have a voice and you wish to share it with the world through the beautiful medium of the written word. With every page that is typed, deleted, edited, printed, torn, and burned you grow as an individual getting ever closer to who you truly are.
You develop an unrelenting work ethic and grit.
“There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” -Ernest Hemingway
Writing, just like any type of art is hard. In order to write, and write something great for that matter, you need to work on it everyday. The idea that the burst of inspiration that culminates into a work of art is a lie. An unrelenting work ethic and getting something completed requires solitude. This is a product of writing a book.
Obstacles become lesser evils that lay at your doorstep.
“The scariest moment is always just before you start.” -Stephen King
How many times have you been paralyzed by the thought that your endeavor is an overwhelming demon that has peered deep into your soul and laughs at your futile attempt to accomplish anything in life. I know I have. When you write, and you write a book, you find that once you start, and keep at the effort on a daily basis, the beginning was really the toughest part. This then overflows into other aspects of your life.
Lonely as it is, it’s free therapy.
“I write to give myself strength. I write to be the characters that I am not. I write to explore all the things I’m afraid of.” -Joss Whedon
Just because you are alone when writing doesn’t mean you aren’t growing at an exponential level. When you are writing and writing things true to you and from the soul, you are discovering what scares you. Are you afraid of sharing it? Are you afraid of how sinister you just made that sentence? Are you afraid of your evil characters? Are you afraid that your work isn’t any good? So many elements of who you are and how your mind operates will come out of the solitude of writing.
Writing is an extremely lonely endeavor.
You will spend months and years sacrificing time with your friends and family.
Your best friend will be the cute barista at your local coffee shop whose conversation only comprises of, “Hey! Guatemalan pour over to stay, I take it?”
You will skip meals because you lost track of time and 4 hours passed since you last looked up from your laptop screen.
You will forego the loving embrace of a significant other because you don’t have the time to date.
So much of your life will be dictated by the struggle and loneliness of writing.
So much of that loneliness will help you discover who you truly are.
Isn’t that what life is all about?
Becoming the best you, fully seeing that and actualizing it for the world?
Write often and write your book.